Are you ready to win your dream girl?
Here are 10 ways to win a girl’s heart:
1. Be pursuant
Pursue her without the pressure. In other words, don’t try
to “front” and be cocky. Have a conversation first and
show her you are interested beyond her appearance. You
don’t have to come up with some crazy pickup line. You
can simply say, “I want to introduce myself…”Be sincere
and genuine in wanting to get to know her. I see too
many good guys get intimidated by a girl’s beauty up
front, but take a closer look, and find her true self.
Honestly, if you can get past this, you’ll have a leg up
on the other idiots out there. After all, being genuine is
where you excel the most. This is why you are the good
guy!!
2. Be a gentleman
Girls don’t want to be treated like a queen, but they do
want to be treated like a princess . She doesn’t want you
to be a doormat, she wants you to be the one in charge.
Open every door for her, especially the car door. Pull out
her chair and allow her to sit down first when you take
her on a date, and let her order first. When you are
walking alongside the street, you should be the one
walking closest to the street. Being a gentleman is
being selfless.
3. Be complimentary
On our first date, I told her “You look so beautiful.” I
then told her how great she looked when I saw her
without makeup the night before. It was real and
sincere. While she later revealed to me that she had
been testing me to see if I would still like her without
makeup, I simply saw a girl who didn’t have enough
time because she just got done at the gym. That was
incredibly sexy to me.
4. Be creative
You don’t have to blow your bank account to impress
her. Think outside the box. I’ve been watching one of
my good buds Danny pursue his girl right. [Update:
Danny Booko is now engaged to Nia, the current Miss
USA 2014.] He took her on a hike in Malibu, CA to
waterfalls and then took her to this place called M Café
complete with swans. He’s also taken her to the Getty
museum and the zoo, which are free. Another idea is to
take her to a place like Color Me Mine, where you paint
your own pottery. Putting thought and originality into a
date lets her know you really care about showing her the
best in life and it allows you to experience each other
across various situations.
5. Be intentional
Invite her to parties, events, and game nights with your
friends. I called Kristen every day when I finally got her
number. I sent her encouraging text messages and
inspirational Bible verses. I told her I wanted to be her
man on our fifth date. She wasn’t ready, but she knew
what I wanted. I gave her the time she needed with no
stipulations, while still pursuing her intentionally. She
told me she loved that.
6. Speak well of her in front of other people:
Hold her hand. Pick-up artists recommend saying
backhanded compliments, but nothing beats a genuine
and sincere compliment. A backhanded compliment
might work for a one-night stand, but come on, this is a
poisonous ingredient in trying to form a long-term
relationship. Treat her just as kindly in front of friends
and family as you do when you are alone.
7. Be attentive
Show her that you care for her and her needs. Pay
attention to the small details. Girls care about the small
stuff, big time. For instance, on our first date, I knew
Kristen was a vegetarian, so I took her to a vegetarian
restaurant called Café Gratitude. Listen to what she has
to say.
8. Be protective
Don’t let her walk alone to her car. If she’s going on a
jog or walk at night, tell her you want to go to keep her
safe. If she’s going to the gas station at night, go with
her. If you’re at a club and she needs to go to the
restroom, take her there and wait outside the door.
9. Be a good listener
Ask solid open-ended questions that include “what,”
“how,” and “why.” If you’re doing most of the talking,
you’re not getting very far with her. Show her you care
with body language and by repeating back some of what
she just told you.
10. Be romantic
Plan ahead. What do you want your love story to be?
You are the writer. When people ask where your first
kiss was, you don’t want her to answer with the driveway
or that you were drunk at a party. The night I kissed
Kristen for the first time, I wanted it to be special. I
took her to an overlook on Mulholland Drive. We stood
on top of the city, and that night I was her very own
Superman. It was a special moment and I ended up
proposing to her there.
Finally, be yourself. There won’t be much longevity if
she’s fallen for a false persona, and why would you want
that anyway? I’ve come to terms with the fact that I’m
not the coolest guy out there, so I have fun in my
dorkiness. There is no one else like you, so be
confident. When you are walking in truth, game isn’t
necessary. You’ve already won.
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