Real man
Some women feel a “Real Man” doesn’t exist—that he is
impossible to find. Other women do not want someone
like him. On the other hand, some men think they are the
very definition of a “Real Man.” Other men feel there is no
such thing. One thing is true, though: Those men who
think they are the very definition of a “Real Man” and
those who think they are not are both very often wrong .
If you want to know if you are a real man or are in a
relationship with a real man, watch the actions. A real
man behaves so different from the selfish frat boy types
you see everywhere that you can’t fail to notice the
difference. He is a gentleman—good for more than just
the first few months. Importantly, a real man does things
so well when he is in a relationship that you just have to
love him and his style.
1. A real man loves and respects his woman for who she
is.
He might not love her all the time, but he loves her. Not
just her body, her possessions and her status, but all of
her ! He’s aware that as beautiful as her body is now,
physical beauty fades. He therefore focuses his love and
attention on her true beauty, which is found within her
sensibilities and personality. He treats her like a lady, with
dignity and respect. He doesn’t mind cooking her favorite
meal, taking her out to wine and dine and paying the bills.
He also expects love and respect from her.
2. A real man commits to the relationship fully.
He doesn’t cheat. He is loyal to his partner and knows that
relationships take hard work to keep strong and healthy.
His affection to his woman is a full-time commitment. He
nourishes and strengthens the relationship through
ongoing, honest communication and team work. When you
are with a real man, you know you can trust him. He will
stay faithful no matter what and expects you to do the
same.
3. A real man protects his partner physically and
emotionally.
Not that a woman can’t protect and defend herself, but he
is there for her anyway. He protects her in different ways,
including providing financial security and comforting her
and making her feel everything will be okay. He is ready
to throw a good punch if necessary to defend her from
physical aggressors. However, he thinks before he acts.
He never makes a move until he is sure all details and
specifics are in order. His moves are calculated,
deliberate and assured. Abuse of any kind is never an
issue when you are with him. He is considerate and treats
everyone kindly.
4. A real man fulfills his partner mentally and sexually.
He knows the majority of time in any relationship is spent
doing nonphysical, nonsexual things. Besides whispering
to her how beautiful she is or how he is going to make
hot, passionate love to her when he gets back home in the
evening, he also engages her in meaningful discussions
about life, plans with her for the future, and cracks jokes
to lighten and liven moments together. He displays an
awareness, intelligence and sensitivity that makes his
actions not only timely, but also genuinely charming.
5. A real man takes the first initiative—he leads.
That’s because he wears the pants in the relationship. Of
course, the pants are picked out by his woman, but he is
still the leader. He steps forward and addresses issues in
the relationship boldly. He does not wait for the woman to
solve problems. If he is not sure how to address an issue,
he seeks help or advice. Some men play it safe and avoid
taking the lead because they don’t want to be criticized,
but not a real man. A real man says, “I’ll handle it,” and
takes the initiative to solve the issue in his way.
6. A real man steps up and makes the tough decisions.
He knows real men are decisive and he makes decisions
in the relationship. He does not leave every other decision
to his partner. When making decisions, he seeks to
understand her views (and that of other concerned parties)
and is flexible enough to factor in those other views in his
decisions. He does not seek to control people, but rather
to improve their situation. If you are reluctant to make
decisions, you are likely self-conscious and afraid of
making mistakes. Women dislike indecisive, cowardly
men.
7. A real man takes responsibility for his actions and
decisions.
He does not shift blame (especially to his partner) or try
to defend his mistakes. He simply acknowledges when he
has made a mistake, apologizes for it, learns from it and
works to make it right. Saying, “I am sorry,” is not a big
deal to him. He knows it doesn’t make him any less of a
man to say it. In fact, saying he’s sorry makes him more
of a man because it demonstrates he has the confidence,
courage and integrity to admit his faults and seek to
correct them.
8. A real man speaks his mind—always.
He is not afraid or timid to say what’s on his mind. He
will say no without fear whenever he doesn’t agree with
something. He will debate you on topics he is not
comfortable with without losing his cool. He will be
straightforward and talk to you as an equal, then allow you
to make your own conclusions or take whatever action you
wish. This does not mean he is indifferent or treats
women badly. He just doesn’t agree with her on
everything. He knows a “Yes-man” is no man at all.
9. A real man stands up for the relationship.
Sometimes friends, family and even total strangers ask
inappropriate questions or make inappropriate remarks
about your relationship, such as saying you are not a
“good couple.” In such cases, a real man stands up for
himself and defends the legitimacy and integrity of his
relationship. Even when he is among his peers, he speaks
up and stands his ground in defense of his relationship.
This proves he can express himself in the presence
others, protect his woman and act like a grown man.
10. A real man pursues other passion(s) that don’t
involve his partner.
He has enough going on in his life to keep him busy. That
means he is, at least, passionate about one other thing
besides his relationship. The relationship does not define
him. He will give you your space and you must give him
his. He is a confident, ambitious go-getter. He’s a real
man!
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